Experts like Gary Thomas and Dr. John Townsend generally agree—a year is typically enough time to know if you should marry your partner. This timeline is especially important for young adults who face numerous life transitions. If you’re unsure after a year, you probably have your answer. Special circumstances can extend this period, but generally, a year provides enough insight into each other's character and life direction.

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Several fears keep us from making that crucial decision:

1. Fear of Missing Out: Thinking someone better might come along is a major stumbling block. This mindset will plague any relationship you enter and needs to be tackled head-on.

2. Hoping They’ll Change: Don’t expect marriage to change someone who hasn’t shown growth during dating. Lack of change now likely means no change in the future.

3. Staying for Comfort: Remaining in a relationship just to avoid heartbreak or loneliness keeps you in a state of limbo. It’s crucial to seek clarity and direction.

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If you're struggling with the decision, consider these critical questions:

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What scares you about this process? Is it the fear of missing out or something else? Understanding this fear is essential.

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Are you staying out of comfort? If your relationship lacks direction and you're avoiding discomfort, reconsider your choices.

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What would make you act? Identify triggers that could push you towards a decision, whether it's advice from a counselor or a significant change in your partner.

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Friends, it's time to stop playing house. Either get married or break up. Living in limbo isn’t healthy for either party. God’s reality is where He meets us and guides us. Face the gravity of your relationship and make a wise, spirit-led decision.

Thanks for tuning in. I hope these insights help you navigate your relationships with wisdom and clarity. Love you all, and until next time, stay connected to the Spirit and live in reality!

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