• This is ridiculous. 
• All of the conditioning puts us in fear and insecurity that usually isn’t our own but has been put onto us. 
• It all comes down to our own experiences. 

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• WHY is weight considered a factor in relationships? Why are we allowing it to be a hindrance? It’s a societal thing and family dynamics and conditioning in the home. 
• At the end of the day people should be loved and seen for who they are. 
• The Body Is Not an Applogy: The Power of Radical Self Love by Sonya Renee Taylor - “Equally damaging is our insistence that all bodies should be healthy. Health is not a state we own the world, we are not less valuable, worthy, or loveable because we are not healthy. Lastly, there is no standard of health that is acheiveable for all bodies. 
• We are saying that health looks one way. That’s not physically possible when we have body types ranging from 0 - 40+. There is a beautiful mosaic of how we’ve been individually created. This also limits the creation that we’ve been created to be. We must have a very small minded,  not creative god if we think we’re all supposed to look a certain way. 
• Health comes down to you as an individual. 
• The defintion of healthy: In good health, not diseased, and indicative of, conductive to, or promoting good health. → THOSE SO BROAD. We have made it to be so small and so specific when it’s not. 
• It’s physical, mental, social, spirtual. A WHOLE ROUNDED healthy. 

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• You can’t do anything about those people. You literally can only do you. 
• You have to release the responsibility of changing anyone’s mind or make them see you or to convince someone you’re loveable. 
• Rework the narrative to be a confident woman, who knows who she is, aware of who she is and where her voice is, can be inferior. 
• Some of Arielle’s best dates and ideas came from guys who wouldn’t be her “type.” 
• Date the unexpected! 
• You want to date a PERSON not a BODY. 

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• Preference is build off of bias, and we have to be careful with that. Are we first doing the work to undo systemic injustice mindsets that we have as a society? 
• There’s so much fear in the comment around fear and loss. That’s the first thing that Arielle saw in the comment. 
• Some diseases we can prevent but so many we can’t. 
• The human experience is to pass eventually and we don’t know when that’ll happen. 
• You’re allowed to have a preference as long as it’s not routed in bias. 
• You are allowed to have a dealbreaker if that deal breaker comes down to, “I’m not being seen or honored as the whole divine person I am.”
• You are allowed to have preference and things you’d like to see in a human being. You just have to do the work to make sure they’re not routed in bias, that they’re not routed in a mindset that people are less than, and that it’s not coming from a fear based place. Because if that is the case then we have other work to do and we shouldn’t be dating in the first place. 
• Great question to ask yourself: What does my life look like with xyz preference? 

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• Self love is a guide book, you write it, and you pass it on to others. You teach people how to love you. 
• You have to see and know yourself. It starts with you. How do YOU feel about you? 
• Start with, do you like you? Start there, get off the apps and do that work BEFORE you step into the dating world. 
• Knowing and loving yourself is how we get to the point where we can be known and loved by other people. 
• Nobody wants to date someone who doesn’t know who they are. 

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