The biggest takeaway from today’s episode is the idea of redefining what successful dating looks like. JJ introduced a novel concept—measuring success not by ending in marriage, but by consistently honoring God throughout the dating process. Imagine treating every date as an opportunity to leave each person closer to God than when you met them. This perspective changes everything.

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In order to demystify the term "dating," Kait suggests breaking it into distinct, manageable stages:

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Single: Embrace personal growth and faith.

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Dating: This phase, lasting 60-90 days, is about building friendship and deciding if it should progress.

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Relationship: Determine if this person is a potential life partner.

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Engaged: Prepare for lifelong commitment.

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Married: Committing fully to your partner with God at the center.

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"The more you sell, the more you market yourself, the less authentic you actually are." This powerful statement from JJ reminds us that undue pressure can stifle our true selves. By approaching dating with curiosity and reduced stakes, we allow genuine, authentic connections to form. Seek to know if you want to see them again rather than if they’re "the one."

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Kait and JJ discussed the dangers of rushing through the dating stages. They highlight the necessity of allowing enough time to truly know someone before making life-altering commitments. Time and experience build trust and reveal character, ensuring a solid foundation for any relationship.

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Referencing Proverbs 19:2—"Enthusiasm without knowledge makes mistakes"—Kait and JJ advocate for dating intentionally and wisely. They champion dating over four seasons, allowing true character to emerge through life's ups and downs, fostering a deeper and more authentic connection.

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Kait offers practical advice such as waiting 60-90 days before integrating your date into your inner circle. This timeline helps you observe their character and compatibility without added pressure. Their mentorship programs, like the School of Dating, offer further guidance for those seeking a transformative dating experience.

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Redefining dating within a Christian framework starts with prioritizing spiritual growth and true compatibility over societal pressure and rushed timelines. Together, we can navigate the complexities of modern dating with grace, wisdom, and God-centered intentionality.

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Don’t forget to join us at the Heart of Dating conference in Dallas, Texas, or online, for more deep dives into making your dating life intentional and godly. We can’t wait to see you there!

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