Our HOD hosts break down attraction into five essential layers: physical, spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and personality. While physical attraction might start the fire, it’s the robust logs – focused on spiritual and emotional compatibility – that keep the flame burning. Through their candid back-and-forth, Kait and JJ challenge listeners to evaluate their multi-dimensional type. The bottom line here? Moderate attraction is vital, but it’s essential to be curious and explore the other four layers, which often hold transformative potential for deeper relationships.

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Both Kait and JJ candidly share how their preconceptions of “type” were shaped by their personal histories and societal norms. Kait’s love for hyper-romantic gestures and JJ’s athletic partner preference were not just preferences but responses to past wounds and fantasies. It’s essential for everyone, as shared by our hosts, to introspect on the origins of their “type.” What part of this desire is born from a healthy place, and what continues to draw from past hurts and unrealistic fantasies?

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Continuing with the analogy of building a fire, JJ emphasizes the idea that the initial spark, while necessary, doesn’t need to be a roaring blaze right off the bat. This segment encourages listeners to appreciate the gradual building of attraction and connection as they layer their fire with different elements. Cultivating a relationship slowly allows for nurturing the vital deeper attractions that truly keep it alive. As Kait aptly puts it, a slow burn could lead to a more sustained, passionate, and fulfilling relationship.

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JJ and Kait encourage listeners to broaden their perspectives about what constitutes an attraction-worthy type. They emphasize that real-world partners rarely match our idyllic pre-formed types. Those willing to challenge these self-imposed limitations discover unexpected compatibility and joy. As Kait expressed, “Date the unexpected and watch how God will do the unexpected.”

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This episode is an inspiring prompt to peer beneath the surface and question our assumptions. It's a reminder to consider attraction as a complex, evolving dance rather than ticking boxes off a list. For the HOD fam, the message is clear: Understanding the multi-faceted nature of attraction allows us to break free from superficial constraints and embrace godly and fulfilling relationships. Tune in to this enlightening conversation and prepare to redefine what attraction means in your quest for love.

Stay tuned for next week’s episode as we continue unwrapping the intricate layers of dating with Kait and JJ. Until then, challenge your beliefs, open your heart, and let the unexpected guide you.

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