First things first,

You don't need to know if they are marriage material YET. Instead, what you need to ask yourself after a first date is, "Do I know enough information to see this person ONE MORE time?"

As JJ always says, you need to take it ONE DATE AT A TIME.

Next, get clear on our top core values. From those core values establish 5 NON-NEGOTIABLES. That's it. NO more than 5. And within that 5, make sure they are based in CHARACTER.

Focus on genuinely having FUN and being curious about this amazing man or woman of God in front of you. YES, it is okay to have ENJOY dating.

Remember that dating is a process of evaluation through time. There is NO rush to be in a relationship with someone and certainly NO rush to marry them if you pace it well. You will never regret spending more TIME really getting to know someone... but you WILL regret committing too quickly to someone.

3 signs that you may be putting too much pressure on dating...

1. You immediately romanticize and picture a future with anyone and everyone that shows interest in you. (Relatable, we know!)

2. You’re quick to eliminate people based on superficial things, before taking the time to get to know them for who they truly are.

3. You ONLY date to marry and you feel stuck in a narrative that “there are no good ones out there”.

We know all 3 of these signs are SUPER relatable so know that if you’re thinking to yourself “Oh no, I do all 3 of those things!”… you’re not alone.

But if that is you, maybe it’s time to do some reevaluation on what dating can actually look like for you. And we promise… it’ll be a LOT more fun and way less exhausting and disappointing.