The problem is that it’s a reactive approach to our lives, instead of proactive. When we react, that’s not our best self. Therapy should be a part of our life. Of course there will be seasons where it’s more prevalent than others. Overall, we want to have a lifestyle where were pursuing better, whatever that looks like in different ways on an ongoing basis as opposed to just reacting to the problems. 

Jason knew what he was doing was not working and that something had to change when He and Jodi came together. Jodi was the first person to lovingly look at Jason and say, I love you, and I’m lovingly telling you, you should pull it together. 

Jason says he thinks this can be in friendship. Friendship is a practice ground for romantic relationships. When we have a friend group who can do this with us, it prepares us for relationships. 

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Jason was both willing and owned the work that needed to be done. So the question is, are they willing to own that and work on it? 

At the end of the day they have to make the decision for themselves. Jason always says that healthy relationships are invite only. We can invite them we can’t force it. Telling people what to do rarely works. A great question to ask is, “how’s that working for you?” This is always asked out of curiosity not with an agenda. 

The first thing is recognizing that you have them and that you’re believing them. Who’s voice do you hear these negative thoughts in? Sometimes it’s rooted in a wound. Secondly, is it universally true for you? It might be true in one context, but it may not be true universally. Be curious about the other side of it? Is there evidence to support the other side of what you’re believing? 

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We have two hands, one for truth and one for grace. Usually were really good at one and really bad at the other. 

The reason can vary so much. Sometimes it’s about what we’re putting out there. Sometimes it’s what we’re internalizing. Sometimes we may need to have more conversations with people. We should have so much curiosity in dating and sometimes we replace that with judgement. 

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It’s so important to be curious because you learn. You do not know it all. Curiosity is the springboard to the very things you want. 

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Many singles feel cynical and really HURT. Cynical by the lack of it panning out. Hurt by the constant rejection. They feel stuck and hopeless. How can they work through that?

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How is your attitude with which you’re approaching this season making it better? Are we going to allow blank amount of experiences to dictate our life and how we live? 

You’re not worthless. There are relationships out there for you. It may be difficult, but it’s going to be difficult to not try too. It’s going to be a challenge both ways. Pick your difficult. Build up a really strong group of community around you where you feel loved and supported. You’ll then go into relationships feeling much more cared and loved.