Speaking of unhealthy dependencies, let's talk about codependency. Deb explains that this often stems from childhood trauma or experiences that make you feel like you're not enough. It can show up in different ways, like relying on your partner to make you feel good about yourself or only feeling valuable when you're taking care of them. Deb and the hosts get real about how easy it is to fall into these patterns, especially if they're familiar from your childhood.

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Deb and the crew also dive into the importance of acknowledging and processing your emotions in a healthy way. Turns out, those negative emotions like anxiety are actually trying to tell you something, so you gotta pay attention and respond appropriately. They even bring up that movie "Inside Out" to talk about how toxic positivity is a no-go and why you need to face those tough feelings head-on. Plus, they remind us that even Jesus had emotions, so it's all part of the spiritual journey.

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Deb's got a new book called "Soul Care," and she breaks down the six rhythms for nurturing your inner self: nourish, rest, connect, protect, savor, and tune in. She shares her personal fave (spoiler alert: it's savor) and talks about how important it is to make space in your life for healthy connections with God, yourself, and others, especially when you're feeling lonely.

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Deb's all about building those healthy friendships and connections before you even think about getting married. The hosts and Deb talk about how the way you act in your friendships is probably gonna carry over into your marriage, so you better work on those communication and conflict resolution skills now. They even share some hilarious stories about living with roommates and how it prepared them for future relationships.

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Alright, HOD fam, this episode is packed with so much goodness from Deb Fileta and Kait and JJ. They're dropping truth bombs left and right about ditching the soulmate myth, breaking free from codependent habits, embracing your emotions for spiritual growth, prioritizing soul care, and building healthy connections before tying the knot. If you take anything away from this episode, let it be that you can create more fulfilling, authentic, and thriving relationships with yourself, others, and the big guy upstairs by putting these tips into practice. 

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