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MM: Why Girls Choose the Bad Boy

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JJ Tomlin

Today we’re diving into why women often go for the bad boy instead of the nice guy, with JJ Tomlin and special guests, who spill some juicy stories and real talk!

Introduction

Hey HOD fam! We’re back and super excited about today’s episode. JJ Tomlin here, and we’re diving into a topic that’s been on everyone’s mind: "Bad Boys vs. Nice Guys." Why do some women seem to go for the bad boys over the nice guys? It’s a juicy one, so get comfy because we’ve got our awesome guests Ashley, Elyse, and Jeanine ready to share their insights. Let’s go!

Why Women Pick Bad Boys

JJ starts by talking about what makes a man truly wise—strength, knowledge, and seeking guidance. He gives a big shout-out to all the good guys who feel they’re getting overlooked. Did you know stats show only a small percentage of men are actually asking women out? That leaves a lot of amazing women unnoticed.

Ashley, Elyse, and Jeanine open up about their attraction to bad boys. Ashley mentions the thrill and instant connection she felt with bad boys. Elyse and Jeanine discuss how they tried to change bad boys, thinking it would validate them, but they later realized it wasn’t worth it.

The Savior Complex

JJ talks about the savior complex in relationships—trying to "fix" someone to feel more valuable. Elyse shared that being chosen by a bad boy made her feel cool, but she later regretted it. Jeanine talks about finding real self-worth and meeting a kind and intentional partner.

Confidence and Passion

JJ emphasizes the importance of men pursuing their passions in line with God’s word. He advises guys not to let the outcome of asking someone out define their self-worth. He brings up how bad boys take more risks, while nice guys often play it safe. JJ encourages nice guys to step up their game and embody true strength, which he calls meekness.

Wrapping Up

In his closing thoughts, JJ urges the genuinely good men to embrace their God-given roles, especially in relationships. He emphasizes the value of maturity and long-term, healthy connections over just seeking thrills.

So there you have it, fam! An episode packed with wisdom, personal stories, and practical dating advice. If you’re a nice guy feeling left out or curious about the appeal of bad boys, this episode’s got your answers.

Don’t forget to subscribe and leave us a review—we love hearing from you! Until next time, stay blessed, HOD fam!

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JJ Tomlin

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JJ Tomlin is a missionary kid born in Belgium, originally from Tennessee, and currently residing in the OC. He currently works in Gaming/E-Commerce, enjoys watching his Tennessee Titans on Sundays with his Goldendoodle Teddy and loves working with Christian men to raise the bar in singleness and dating.


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