Francis Chan talks about 7 signs of a Lukewarm Christian in his book, CRAZY LOVE. 

1. They want to be saved from consequences of their sin. Basically, they want a fire escape plan. They have no desire for HOLINESS. 
2. They are MOVED by radical things for Christ but don’t DO radical things for christ themselves.
3. Rarely share their faith with their neighbors or friends because they don’t want to be rejected. 
4. They think about earth more than eternity. 
5. They love their luxuries and rarely give to the poor in a truly sacrificial way.
6. They don’t live by faith, their lives are so structure so they never have to. Their lists are perfect SO when God calls them to do something they can’t do it because it doesn’t fit in with their “plan.”
7. They give God their leftovers, not their first and best

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When it comes to dating, it’s hard because while we’re trying to figure out if someone is lukewarm, it feels like there’s a little bit of judging their lifestyle if you don’t know them previously. So, are we judging them if we label them lukewarm? 

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Caden, thinks there is healthy judgement here. Matthew 7 talks about knowing a tree by it’s FRUIT. When it comes to dating, you should be watching and evaluating actions. Having fruit coming off of their life is IMPORANT for a Christian. Don’t judge with your nose stuck up in the air, but measure and evaluate the fruit in their life. 

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This evaluation is LESS about checklist items like attending church every week and leading a bible study. It’s MORE about their integrity and character. 

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Matthew 7:21-23 “On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.” It’s very clear I can’t ONLY look at your actions, your fruit, and what’s great about your ministry to evlautate your heart. What I CAN look at is how you RESPOND and REPENT to failure. 

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How are they talking about Jesus? Gary Thomas says, “If they aren’t talking bout God, they’re probably not talking TO Jesus.” 

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Why do people do this? Many women make the case that they get pursued even better and more consistently by nonchristians and that they communicate better. On the flipside, many men date nonchristians because they are incredibly attracted to them physically. 

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A lot of times if you end up dating someone who is lukewarm or a non-christian they often end up pulling you down to their level or become a weight that doesn’t allow you to ascend in your relationship with Jesus. 

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It’s the same for the new Christian, lukewarm Christian, and non-Christian, equally yoked is the best analogy you could ever think of. 

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Relationships are HARD and adding pastor responsibilities to that is sooo hard. This also creates the perfect recipe for codependency. 

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If you go on a date with someone from ONLINE and they end up NOT being a christian, use it as an opporunity to leave them better than you found them! We don’t recommend dating a non-Christian, but you can be FRIENDS with non-Christians. 

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Overall, we want to drive home the point that being equally yoked is the post imporant when it comes to dating a new, lukewarm, or non-Christian. 

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