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Date the Unexpected

with

Kait and JJ Tomlin

Today, we're all about dating beyond your type! Community members share their surprising love stories, and we chat about breaking those physical preference habits to find real connections.

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In This Episode

Introduction

Height Preferences

Layers of Attraction

Vulnerability and Long-Distance

Introduction

Hey HOD fam! Welcome back! This week, Kait and JJ Tomlin are diving into "Date the Unexpected," all about breaking free from strict physical preferences in dating. We’ve got some community members joining us to share their inspiring stories of finding love outside their usual “type.” Grab a seat and get ready to broaden those dating horizons!

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Height Preferences

Kait talks about height preferences and their impact. JJ shares his own journey with this topic.

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Layers of Attraction

Focus on character, values, and the five layers of attraction: emotional, spiritual, intellectual, personality, and physical.

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Vulnerability and Long-Distance

The hosts discuss the allure of emotionally unavailable people and the importance of understanding attachment styles. Also, Kait and JJ talk about the challenges and rewards of long-distance relationships.

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Listen in for community stories about dating the unexpected!

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