Okay fammm we are continuing our season in red flags this week as we talk about LAZINESS and lack of discipline … WHEWIE, let’s do this fam!! We have our amazing friends Jeanine Amapola and Kaleb Ward on today to tackle this topic with us!! 

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Kaleb starts us off with his definition of laziness. In Proverbs it talks about how mere TALK is a poor mentality but a man who toils will produce wealth. He says that a lot men struggle with talking about their goals, getting their woman excited about their vision, then three months go by and he hasn’t done anything. We can almost get more excited about the PRODUCT than the PROCESS. Then you have the woman wondering why the man is talking a lot but not doing a lot and this all breeds laziness. Especially in the early phases of dating men sometimes will bite off more than they can chew because they’re wanting to impress the lady and then don’t end up having follow through. 

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Jeanine’s definition of laziness is the lack of CHOOSING discipline. A lot of times it’s motivation, and vision and goals but the opposite of laziness is discipline. So it’s choosing to be disciplined when it sucks and you don’t really want to do it that is the opposite of laziness. Jeanine thinks that women respect men a lot more when they choose to do hard things. 

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Kait adds in one thing that can be part of laziness. Sometimes people are legit sleep deprived, maybe have a thyroid problem, they may even have struggles with depression and are BURNT OUT. Sometimes you might be lazy and there may be something behind the scenes going on. There really could be a lack of discipline however, if you find yourself feeling like you want to do things but just can’t there may be another thing going on. There is a lot to be said about type A and type B people. 

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JJ talks about Genesis 3 and how the men’s achilles heal is passiveness. Adam simply WATCHED as Eve ate the fruit. It’s so interesting how we can be so disciplined in some areas of life and not in others. 

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It’s all about priorities. You won’t be lazy about what you’re prioritizing. Laziness can show where your heart is. So often it’s not that people are straight up lazy, it’s that they don’t know wha they want to do in life. The struggle is that if they KNEW what they wanted to do they’d go after it but they don’t know. You have to have a PLAN. 

For an example, we see this in dating ALL THE TIME. Men will say they’re not good planners so they decide they don’t want to plan and defer to the woman. The thing about it is, that even if it’s not your tendency, you have to exercise that muscle and grow in planning. 

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If laziness is in your dating relationship or in your life, then laziness in your marriage will be one of the biggest killers. 

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Laziness can be such a turn off because it can reveal a lack of leadership. If they can’t lead themself, how can they lead you? 

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There is a lot of pressure on men to have it all figured out, you just need to be DISCIPLINED in the small things and COMMITTED to moving forward and not stagnant. 

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