God created both male and female in HIS image, this is AMAZING! That means that everything especially as it pertains to your SPIRIT, your core tendencies, what you’re wired for, what’s most natural instincts to your gender. That’s your masculine and feminine energy or capacity. AND, they’re not exclusive. Men have both a masculine and feminine nature and women have both a feminine and masculine nature. As a healthy adult you should have both! 

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A cool thing to think about is that God created male and female in his image so they are both derived from him. Which is SO cool! 

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Men might be more naturally inclined to provide and protect, but that does not mean they cannot have an empathetic and nurturing nature too. 

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Women might have more of a natural inclination to provide and nurture, but that does not mean they cannot have a protective or fierce nature. 

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So, here we are TODAY with women, 50 years out of their revolution, they are in the workforce, they are trying to provide for themselves, they are investing their time and effort into their real estate, living expenses, retirement, their debt, their child their vision. They’re still trying to prove something. And the question becomes… 

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Sometimes we have this idea of the big, bad, fierce independent girl who just simply doesn’t need a man. The reality is that it depend! If they are so fiercely independent that they guard their independence and don’t wantt to rely on anybody for anything including in a relationship…then YES. That is too indeepndt. I am SO glad she’s a go-getter, I am proud that she is kicking butt, but that does not open space for a partnership. To find another partner and have a relationship, you go form the I in independent to WE. The best relationships are TEAMS! 

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It is a great thing to have DEPENDENCE in a relationship. To build trust, to build reliability. To have both patterns say you know, maybe I am not the best in this area, maybe I am having a bad day or bad season, I need to rely on you at this moment. Side note… that’s going to happen! 

There is a difference between an independent woman and a woman who knows how to be independent AND also opens themselves up to be dependent. Because of the woman constantly taking pride in their independence has no room for a man to STEP up and be the man he desires to be. You are more of an independent mom in their life, not a partner.

And by the way… we think it takes way more strength for a woman to release control and depend on others. Why? Because there is RISK! I am going to step back and rely on another person? That surely opens me up to be disappointed and sad. That is not very fun. But I am willing to give this person a chance because not only are they worth it, but this is a great, healthy thing I am going to have to practice in ANY relationship.

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If she’s a boss, she runs her life well with excellence, and cranking on all cylinders. She’s loving Jesus, she is cultivating a  Godly relationship without you, she doesn’t necessarily NEED a partner but she WANTS one. Strong women are going to want a STRONG man. If she is giving you opportunity after opportunity to rise up, to step up, she is not relaxing on her expectations of you, you HAVE to find a way to LEVEL UP!  She is looking for an EQUAL partnership. She’s not looking to adopt you!!!! She wants to be met, challenged, spiritually, emotionally, and professionally. She wants to be able to RELAX knowing that YOU are doing what you said you were going to do. That way you two can RELY on each other for needs and build a GREAT TEAM! 

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