Sarah works full-time so she after that appointment she actually went back to work and spent all afternoon fighting back tears. She texted a few of her friends who are in her board of advisors (shout out School of Dating) and told them what the doctors had said and that she was really struggling and asked them to pray for her. One of them messaged her back and was like, “do you want to go walking tonight? We can talk.” 

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So number one was having a community is hugely vital! 

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She also knew though that her and God needed to have a conversation. Sarah is quick to say that God can handle our emotions, he already knows that we’re angry at him he just wants us to tell him. We can’t process and work through that anger without first letting him know where you’re at. 

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So Sarah went walking with her friend and she cried with her and then she went home, got in the shower and just started crying and telling God what she was feeling and where she was at. She asked him the question, “are you really going to ask me to give up this dream?” 

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Sarah says that one of the things that isn’t really talked about is that singles as they age, have to embrace the fact that certain dreams are given up just because of time. She’s not saying that younger singles or people who get married aren’t giving up dreams because that’s not true, but the reality is you can never get back time, and you never stop aging. 

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Sarah has had to give up a lot of dreams that she’ll never see come to reality or at least how she thinks they should come to reality. 

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So processing with the Lord looked like a good hour and a half in the shower crying, talking to the Lord and being really honest about how she was feeling.  

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For women and for men too, so often we can allow the feelings to overwhelm. That’s not saying that feelings aren’t valid, because they are, they’re just not always true. 

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First, giving voice to those feelings. Sarah says this is something she’s actually gone to therapy for becuase she’s really good at trying to avoid her feelings. 

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Second, walk in the truth of what scripture says. Even when it doesn’t FEEL that way, asking yourself, okay what does the bible say? Psalm 23 is the scripture Sarah shared in her 4x7. If you really look at the scripture you see that the shepherd is actually walking with his sheep making sure they have the greenest grass and cleanest water, through storms and rain. Asking God to help your unbelief, to show up in this because you feel so alone right now. 

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If the shepherd saw 5, 10, 17, 23, 35, and 39 year old Sarah and didn’t think she was worth it despite it, but thought she was worth it with it, with all of it, then her story has to be pretty amazing. It has to be because he’s writing it and it was worth dying for. And your story is too! 

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“It’ll happen when you least expect it.” 

“It’ll happen when you’re most content.” 

“You’re just not putting yourself out there enough.” 

“You’re just too desprate and you’re putting yourself out there too much.” 

“Do you even want to be married?” 

“Just enjoy your singleness, marriage is so hard.” 

“Enjoy travel, you’ll never get to travel again.” 

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Singleness and marriage are great, but Jesus is the best. - JJ 

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Sometimes we’re given gifts that don’t seem like gifts but they’re meant to be a blessing to others. 

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Sarah has BEEN THERE. Even in the short 2024 were in she’s thought, maybe she should change something. But then she remembers the most important thing, Jesus. 

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School of Dating really helped her as far as lowering her standards. Figuring out her non-negotiables and not swaying from those. She has her board of advisors who give her counsel. 

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Have a solid relationship with the Lord and a solid community around you. Community, community, community!!!!! 

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