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It’s Time for Some
Christian Dating
#realtalk

From someone who ACTUALLY gets it.

Is your community tired of hearing from married couples who don’t truly understand the pains of modern dating? Are you a pastor that feels disconnected from your community of singles? Do you want to throw a non-awkward dating event but want to make sure it feels relevant? If so, you’ve come to the right place!

Dating Experts Kait & JJ  here!

...and we'd LOVE to make your community feel seen & heard in their singleness.

Why are we credible? Kait is a best-selling author, speaker, popular relationship coach, and the founder of Heart of Dating. She has helped thousands of men and women on their journeys through the conversations on my podcast, The Heart of Dating Podcast.

Together, Kait and JJ love bridging the gap between what you may have heard from helpful Christian resources that may or may not be applicable to your life with REAL-LIFE experience, wisdom, and practical help from two people who actually knows what it’s like to date in our swipe-right, swipe-left culture.

If your community is filled with singles who feel alone, worn out, and confused, we'd be honored to come and speak to them and make them feel heard, encouraged, and empowered with change and direction.

YOU MIGHT HAVE SEEN US ON:
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“Kait’s just got the juice. It’s a simple as that. Her rawness, impeccable communication skills, and experiences-turned-testimony-and-wisdom way of speaking to an audience blessed our women in a way that we’ll never forget. Healing started the moment she said her first sentence. We’re really grateful for that."

Toni J Collier

Founder of Broken Crayons Still Color Here
& Lead Pastor of Hillsong Atlanta

“Kait is a passionate and heart centered communicator who has a gift to speak her message so that it not only challenges the mind, but also connects with the heart of those listening.”

Jamal & Natasha Miller

Founder of The One University

“If you’re looking for a speaker to dive into dating, relationships, and living with sexual integrity in today’s climate, Kait is your girl. She has a gift of speaking to singles in every season of life while guiding them to Biblical truth and sound content. Kait’s natural ability to communicate and lively personality is the real deal. We can’t wait to work with her again!.”

Monica Amanda

Speaker & Founder of Together 4:15

“Kait’s gift in communication and connection is unmatched. We had her speak at our virtual event “Together 4:15” and not only did she deliver a timely, sound, and encouraging message, but she also brought in a large amount of ticket sales for our event as well. Kait effortlessly captures the hearts of those attending her sessions as she has the unique ability to meet young Christians navigating the dating scene right where they’re at - because she’s there too! You won’t regret having Kait as a guest at your event.”

Kelsey Chapman

Author & Founder of Together 4:15

“It’s always an absolute delight having Kait speak at my events! I know that she’ll bring her infectious energy, her passionate faith, and her heart to encourage others, EVERY SINGLE TIME! I’m constantly inspired by her gift of celebrating women and that radiates through every teaching + interview that she does!”

Jessica Shakir

Author & Founder of Together 4:15

"Kait is such an inspirational person and that simply translates into the way she speaks. She does everything with EXCELLENCE and passion- the time and detail she put into our event was so honoring and showed in everything she shared. Our audience fell IN LOVE with Kait, her perspective on singleness needs to be shared across the universe!!! What a powerful life story she lives!!”

MacKenzie Wilson & Kenzie Durham

Co-Founders of Delight Ministries & For the Girl
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Book a HOD Night!

Given the success of our HOD conferences, we want to provide a similar in-person experience to Christian Single community more widely and frequently throughout the year. This 1 night event will be a lighter version of HODC and provide value to churches and their communities by:

1) Uniting underserved Christian singles in the same venue.

2) Encouraging Christian singles who feel hopeless, frustrated, and stuck.  

3) Jump-starting the partner church’s single ministry by training staff and demonstrating excellence in serving their community.

WHY DO THIS? Well because...

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54% of US Adults are Single (18-49), for the first time ever we have more single adults than married adults
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61% of the church’s 20’s and 30’s adult audience is Single
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31% of Singles in their 20’s drop Church in their 20’s because they feel isolated
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41% of Singles in their 30’s drop Church in their 30’s because they feel isolated
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For every 1 Christian book on Singleness, there are 298 Christian books on Marriage on Amazon.

Or book us for an event!

We are here to bring the #realtalk, step into the grey and have uncomfortable conversations, all the while coming alongside Christian singles who are struggling in their dating lives.

Here are some signature topics we are happy to speak on:

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Getting Unstuck In Your Singleness
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Fighting the Fear of Rejection
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A New Way of Dating that Will Transform Your Life
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Finding Godly Confidence and Walking In Your Worth
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How To Heal, Deal, and Feel After a Breakup
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Biblical Masculinity and Femininity
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How to Stop Being Awkward, Uptight and In Your Head and Actually Meet People
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God Loves Online Dating... and You Can Too!

We'd Love To Work With You!

Ready to have these conversations at your church or event (local or virtual)? Fill in the form and we will get back to you as soon as we can!

Let’s Connect!

Media Bio

Kait Tomlin is a national best-selling author, speaker, popular relationship coach, and the founder of Heart ofDating. She, along with her husband, JJ, helps thousands of men and women on their journeys through the conversations on theHeart of Dating Podcast, which launched in 2018.

Through their ministry, the Tomlin's mission is to empower both men and women to have the courage to own their story, walk in victory, thrive with purpose, and discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships.

In Kait's most recent book, Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight forYourself, Kait vulnerably shares how she grew through her deepest, darkest rejections and offers readers the tools to heal from the past, take back their power, and walk in strength, victory, and love into their future.

They currently live in Franklin, TN with their daughter Eleanor, and bernedoodle Lovey.

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