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Today we’re asking: Where Are the Good Single Christian Men? Join us to deep dive into social media’s impact, emotional maturity, and the need for discipleship in the church.
Introduction
The Destruction of Pornography on Men
Finding Quality Men in the Church
Women’s Emotional Maturity
Men’s Fear of Rejection
Community Accountability
Addressing the Leadership Gap
Marrying Potential vs. Reality
Conclusion: Leaning into Jesus
Hiii HOD fam, we are so excited to tackle a question that’s been buzzing: “Where are the Good Single Christian Men?” This week’s episode dives deep with our special anonymous guests (you might recognize some voices though ;) So, let’s get right into this thought-provoking topic!
We kick things off by addressing a crucial issue: the devastating impact of pornography on Christian men. One of our guests likens its effects to those of crystal meth, highlighting how it distorts men’s perceptions of relationships and hinders their ability to engage authentically. He encourages women to walk in faithfulness and return to biblical values, as this issue affects both genders.
One of our guests assures us there are quality single men in the church but identifies two main groups: new believers who feel intimidated and those caught in the social media era lacking depth. He emphasizes the need to help these men mature and develop the life skills necessary for meaningful, Christ-centered relationships.
JJ and Kait and another guest discuss the notable emotional maturity and readiness for marriage that many women demonstrate. Statistics show women’s proactive engagement in faith contrasts sharply with men’s emotional immaturity. Kait underscores the importance of being deeply in love with Jesus first to shape one’s perspective on earthly relationships.
One guest points to the fear of rejection and increased virtual interactions as barriers for men in pursuing relationships. There’s a pressing need for men to practice in-person conversations to build confidence. This shift back to face-to-face interactions is crucial for a healthier dating landscape within the church.
Dating within a church community comes with its own set of challenges. JJ and Kait highlight the fear of disapproval and gossip, while a guest notes some men date outside the church to avoid accountability. Maintaining a positive, supportive community culture and being mindful of our words are paramount.
The podcast also tackles the lack of strong male leadership and discipleship in churches.Two of our guests stress the importance of prayer for godly men and the establishment of robust men’s discipleship ministries. Investing in male leadership within the church is critical for fostering spiritual and emotional maturity.
Kait advises looking at a person’s consistent efforts and current character rather than just their potential. JJ voices frustration with unrealistic standards influenced by Disney and rom-com culture. Focusing on deeper, spiritual connections is essential over superficial markers.
Wrapping up, JJ, Kait, and their guests acknowledge the challenges but remain hopeful. They encourage single Christians to stay faithful and lean into their relationship with Jesus.
So, HOD fam, keep your heart anchored in Jesus, and trust in His perfect timing.
Remember, faithfulness is key, and the right person will come in God’s time. Amen!?
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Kait Tomlin is a best-selling author, speaker, popular relationship coach, and the founder of Heart of Dating. She helps thousands of men and women on their journeys through the conversations on the Heart of Dating Podcast, which launched in 2018.
Through her ministry, Kait’s mission is to empower both men and women to have the courage to own their story, walk in victory, thrive with purpose, and discover clarity and vision in their life and relationships. In her new book, Thank You for Rejecting Me: Transform Pain into Purpose and Learn to Fight for Yourself, Kait vulnerably shares how she grew through her deepest, darkest rejections and offers readers the tools to heal from the past, take back their power, and walk in strength, victory, and love into their future. Kait currently lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband JJ and their pups Lovey and Teddy. She loves sunshine, walks, Jesus, and lip syncing to Celine Dion.
JJ Tomlin is a missionary kid born in Belgium, originally from Tennessee, and currently residing in the OC. He currently works in Gaming/E-Commerce, enjoys watching his Tennessee Titans on Sundays with his Goldendoodle Teddy and loves working with Christian men to raise the bar in singleness and dating.
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