First, you must ask for PERMISSION! This is huge! It would be great to give people a heads up. Think about how they’d like to receive this information, is it an audio message, text, or in person? Either way, give a heads up. This is important because you’re starting the whole conversation on their terms and completely personalized for them. 

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Second, you must seek Holy Spirit’s WISDOM! The reality is that if you go in to the conversation on your own accord, without seeking the Holy Spirit, you’ll absolutely FAIL. The Holy Spirit is our HELPER. He will help you through this conversation! 

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Think about that relationship, job situation, friendship where it was NOT okay. How meaningful would it have been in hindsight to have a friend who said, “I love you, and I have no other desire in my heart but to see you growing with God and succeeding in your life here on earth and this is not it. This job, friendship, family, relationship, boyfriend/girlfriend is NOT it. As your friend who loves you with all my heart, I have to speak up. I’m here for you if you need ANYTHING.” 

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Now, that is one half of the equation that sincerely does not happen every often. If you are that friend, please consider this a nudge and empowerment to PRESS into God. Press into the Holy Spirit. These are sacred moments in life where we can seek God’s clarity on the RIGHT time to SHARE. Lean into him for WISDOM and CONFIRMATION. Every situation is so different, fortunately we have a HELPER who perfectly addresses every challenge we face. 

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If you have any inkling in your Spirit and mind that your friends do not approve or are concerned about your partner…you’re probably, absolutely right. If this is the case the message is simple. Move forward in your life with SEVERE WISDOM and EXTREME DISCERNMENT. Your top priority at this moment is NOT…

• What will people think about this 
• What will my romantic life look if this break up happens 
• Will there be another guy or girl that God has for me
• How hard will this be emotionally, can I go through another break up? 
• What if I make the wrong decision?

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Your top priority is this, “God, what do you have for me? Where are you leading me? What is your will for me in these next steps? How can I glorify you in these next decisions? How cna I advance your Gospel and Kingdom in my next decisions? How will this affect me in the scop of eternity?” 

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We must EVALUATE our top PRIORITES and CORE VALUES. Hold fast to the HOPE and PURPOSE of your life. 

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• Do you trust your friends? As in, are they wise? Do they run their life with wisdom? If yes, let’s move to the next question.. 

• Do they have your best interest in mind? AKA - your Godly call, your wellbeing with God, your health. If yes, let’s move to the next quesiton…

• Does their opinion hold weight in your life? This is HUGE! God tells us in the book of Proverbs 16 times that God speaks through WISE counsel!!! 

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Can you humble yourself to solicit feedback? Can you handle feedback without taking it personally or with offense? If yes…

WHY? Why do they not support your relationship? Can you listen to their reasoning with humility and EVALUATE? 

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Godly friends who love you and would love die for you have no other desire than you see you advance with God and in His Kingdom. Their wisdom is precious GIFT! Why? Because we all have BLIND SPOTS. 

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What are those??? Well they are areas in your life that you ARE BLIND TO!! You CANNOT see!! That is quite literally why they are called BLIND SPOTS!! And it is foolishness to think you do not have them. Something changes when we look in the mirror and say “You have blindspots in your life. Humble yourself to feedback from the Holy Spirit and counsel to speak into these areas.” What a powerful posture!!!  This is where God can mold us and shape us when we have a humble heart. 

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If you are in a place in your life where you are dating, and you have this inkling. PLEASE, we beg you, dare you and challenge you to grab your closest friends and ask, “Hey, where are my blindspots here? What am I missing or what should I be aware of? Transparently, this is where I am at and what is going down. Would you pray with me, ask me some difficult questions and support me?” 

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