• Time heals all wounds 
• Find a hobby and distract yourself 
• Logically understand that she is not the only girl.. There are thousands, hundreds of thousands of other girls. 

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• Be courageous, men - Acknowledge the feelings. I know you want to suppress. I know you want to minimize. I get it, its easier to numb and compartmentalize. Why would God give your emotions and feelings if they were a bad thing?
• Process - Process emotions. Safe guy friends, mentor or therapist, prayer. 
• Healthy coping - Cope the healthy way. Find a way to spend time with friends, hobbies and activities to create joy. We need to create peaks from the valleys of sorrows. Distinction here.. we aren’t coping to distract, we are coping to create and renew joy. 
• Refuse to invalidate or minimize - This is a trap.. Why? This is a big deal.. buried feelings never die. More importantly, if the pain is not transformed it is transmitted. This will hinder you, your future relationship and your ability to lead!
• Embrace the learning God has for you - It is better to learn from our mistakes than it is to repeat them. Don't set yourself up to make the same mistake. Embrace the learning God has for you. Grow. You don’t forge metal under comfort.. God doesn’t forge great men through an easy nice little life.
• Forgive - This is not a one time decision. There is not usually a final moment of deep forgiveness. Forgiveness is an every day decision, every feeling of resentment is an opportunity to forgive. What is at the end? Freedom.. To love, receive love. 

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