• SIDE 1- You can do it WITHOUT lusting for the purpose of sexual release-Especially for those who pursue lifelong singleness, or for the married person when sex is not possible due to distance or other factors.
• SIDE 2- All masturbation is a sin because it’s impossible to masturbate without lusting. 
• A huge teller for you is asking yourself, “how do you feel after?”
• Riley’s rule of life question she asks herself is, “Does this elevate or compromise my relationship with the Lord?”
• Riley found that masturbation didn’t elevate her relationship with the Lord because afterwards she didn’t feel closer to the Lord she felt further away. 
• Does this glorify God or does it not? 
• Philippians 4:8
• If given two options, why not choose the one that calls us to be greater? 
• God cares so much more about heart change as opposed to behavior change. 
• Only you know your intentions. 

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• Riley had so much grace and empathy for herself. 
• She realized that side of herself wasn’t bad it just maybe wasn’t the right time. 
• When she took shame out of the equation and started throwing buckets of shame on herself she found freedom. 

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• For Kait, true Godly conviction came when she really revered how much God loves her and really truly who He is. 
• When we seek God for an answer He does help and give answers. 
• Shame comes when we know what is right and then we don’t do it. God spoke, and we disobeyed. 
• Conviction comes from God, shame comes from us. 
• We have to invite God in, he will never force himself. 

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• When you feel the desire to masturbate, this desire typically lasts 20 minutes so you need to distract yourself for 20 minutes. Go for a walk, find something to do.
• Confess to your friends. 
• Find an accountability partner. Give that person full permission to ask this person whenever and whatever. 
• Self awareness is so key. Masturbation is so often us escaping or numbing something. 
• Often there is a feeling or trigger and then you do it. Figure out what that is so you can safeguard yourself. 
• God created us with a prefrontal cortex unlike other animals so we have the avility to tell ourselves what to do. We can have a desire and then CHOOSE to act on it or not. 
• You CAN stop. You have the self control. You aren’t so addicted that gun to your head, you wouldn’t be able to stop. 
• You have to come at the struggle of masturbation with a spirit of empowerment. 
• If masturbation typically happens on the bed for you, jump out of the bed. Decide that you’re only going to be on the bed when you’re sleeping. 
• Charge your phone outside of your room. 
• Celebrate the small victories and have grace for yourself. 
• Confession to God is for repentance and forgiveness. Confession among brothers or sisters is for healing. 
• Masturbation can be super tied to connection and intimacy. Once you could see what you are lacking, you know you need to connect and go do that. 
• Masturbation mirrors our deep desire for intimacy.

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• Without the WHY we’re going to break the rule. 
• The WHY is often found in community when processing with friends. 
• Pray for God to convict you of this for what he wants. 
• Why is it that I’m choosing not to masturbate? Journal it! 
• Learning how to say no and learning self control is always a good thing. It can be applied to other subjects. 
• If I’m struggling with self control in this area, I’m also struggling with self control in other areas of my life. How can I start learning self control in those other areas and exercising this muscle? 

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• Know that I am for you, and cheering for you. I actually think there’s more for you. 
• Men do have wet dreams and I don’t think it’s an accident. I think it was designed on purpose so that you don’t have to stimulate yourself to release yourself. 
• It sounds like an excuse to keep masturbation in your life. 
• There is grace, but you’re going to have to learn and grow out of that. 
• Masturbation is always for YOU. For self soothing and self pleasure. 
• Sexual relations is always supposed to be about the other person. You’re not doing that with masturbation. 

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• God has so much empathy for you. He does not leave you or forske you. 
• He is the key to the strength for getting through this. 
• God has never loved you more than this moment. 
• Shame and love cannot co-exist. 
• Bring God’s love into it. He has a pathway for you. 

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